I WANT MY DAUGHTER BACK! Not away from her husband, but as my daughter who is now married. Plenty of families disagree with their child’s decision to marry and then after it is done end up having a great relationship.
We expressed our opinion. We are not God. We are not God’s mouthpeice. We expressed our views based on our experience and wisdom. Like I said in emails before the wedding, we might be wrong about Greg and if we are we will be the first people the admit that mistake and beg your forgiveness. The opinion that we expressed was impossible for both of you to deal with. Nobody likes to be rejected.
You did what you think is best. We support you and love you.
Would you please contact us to let us know if you think there is a way we can have a place in eachothers lives?
I learned today that an acquaintance in the Book business died “peacefully in his sleep” last night. He was 49. I am 49. None of us knows how long we have to live. You are going to think I am being manipulative. I am. I am trying to get you to see that this silence and breach between us is wrong. And unnecessary. And we all are losing. You need your family. We need our daughter. Your baby needs his aunts and uncles and grandparents.
I recall months ago you expressing a concern that I wanted your baby. This notion could not be farther from the truth. I would never dream of taking a baby away from it’s mother and father. Never! I have raised 7 children. I am done. DONE! I cannot emphasize enough how absolutely done I am of raising kids. You will learn very soon that it is a very demanding job. I have been at it for 24 years. 7 kids! It is 2.5X more than the average American family has. I LOVE everyone of my children more than anything in the world, but I do not want to raise anymore. And especially not YOUR BABY. God gave this baby to you both and you are the people I believe are responsible for raising him.
Most people are done by the time they are my age. I still have 4 at home! And the little ones won’t be out of the house for another 10 years! I love babies and will love your baby tremendously but I am his grandmother. Period.
ENOUGH IS ENOUGH with this abyss between us. Can’t we find a way to forgive? Someday you will read this blog, Lucy and understand it. I know now it seems like we just wanted to divide you. We just wanted what was best for you. As a writer, this is how I deal with things. Someday I know you will read this blog and truly UNDERSTAND. I hope you don’t have to go through as much pain as I have to get it. But you will.
Right now is there a part of your heart that knows that I love you? That knows that I am and always will be imperfect. That knows that we would die for you.
Your birthday is in 3 days. I am praying that another milestone does not go by without your family by your side. We are not perfect. But each and everyone of us really loves eachother and is committed to eachother forever and ever.
Our family is one bigger now. Greg has joined us. It is time to move on. Can we accept eachother’s crap and live on together as a family?
What do you in your heart of hearts really want to happen now?
Do you really want us out of your life for the rest of your life?
Do you?
Just tell me.
Read back over the words in this blog and tell me if I really deserve to be thrown away like that.
I only want the very very best that life and God has for you. The concerns I expressed about Greg were very real to me and someday I know you will understand. Do you want to lose the next year or two years or five years of havin g your family in your life? Please don’t do that to us.
I will tell you why we didn’t see Jake’s parents after you were about 3. The story is totally different than what happened to us. Totally. We had no choice.
You have a choice. You do not need to throw us away. I gave you life. As Greg said, there must have been something we did right because you are an absolutely wonderful person. That doesn’t happen by accident.
